Sunday, April 13, 2014

Here We Go Again


The secret’s out… WE ARE ADOPTING AGAIN!

Baby BOY due May 18, 2014.
 

That’s the short, sweet, exciting {and a little bit scary} story.  Here’s the longer, or at least more detailed, story.

First, it is important to note that we had NOT been actively looking to adopt again so soon.  At one point we discussed starting up the process again later this year closer to Moriah’s second birthday. But the idea was that we would start with getting our homestudy updated and then begin a process that could take another year plus before being matched.

But that was OUR plan.

Near the end of February I (Jenny) saw a notice from the same person who connected us with Moriah. It basically said this:

Bi-racial baby, due May/June in Florida.

It wasn’t anything out of the norm. Now, being in these adoption circles, I see things like this frequently enough and I would just think, Oh, that’s nice for some great family. They get to adopt a baby, and a baby gets a family.

And then a couple days later:

Still looking for a family for baby.

Hmm, that’s weird, these seem to match quicker than this.  I said a quick prayer for the family that would adopt this baby.  I also emailed some people I knew were looking to adopt and emailed this person asking her to keep me updated.

For some reason this one was sticking with me.  I couldn’t stop thinking about this baby. I just wanted the right family to step forward. Secretly a small part of me wished it was a year later and we could.

A couple weeks later I get an email:

STILL looking for a match!

Obviously, in reading this story and knowing where we stand today, it seems simple. But at the time…and sometimes still…it just seemed so ridiculous.  Moriah is only 15 months old!  We are still working to pay off her adoption. We’re not ready. This is crazy!  Oh, and I’ve never mentioned it to Nate that I was thinking and praying for this baby (Oooops).

But I couldn’t hold it in anymore. For the first time I (Jenny) brought it up to Nate.  He had seen the notes on Facebook but didn’t think too much of it.  Now I told him about the emails and asking, should we?!

Do you ever have those moments where you feel unsure about something but keep walking forward anyway. And then out of the blue it’s like the sky opens, your eyes are clear and you just know you’re in a good place?  Yeah, me neither…until now.

We had the privilege of talking with birthmom by phone. And while that first conversation was short, it was very sweet. There is a genuine connection I cannot fully put into words. And conversations since have only served to further confirm that we were the people she was praying for. We are so grateful not only to have the amazing privilege of adopting another child, but also to have such a positive connection.

That was five weeks ago. And since then we have been working on paperwork to update our homestudy, rearranging furniture to make room for new baby and now the other bedroom has a fresh coat of paint. We also found out It’s a Boy! and that doctor firmed up the due date a bit earlier at May 18th.

Now we have only five weeks left until that date! 

(Wait, excuse me while I scream…Ahhhhhhhhhh! This is crazy!!!!!!!!)

So, while we are enjoying the blue skies, we are praying for back ground checks to clear quickly, for our meetings to go smoothly, and that baby stays in there while we finish up all the legal mumbo jumbo.  The fabulous, wonderful, necessary, hand cramping as we sign too many papers mumbo jumbo that makes it possible for us to adopt this little boy who will forever change our lives.  ;)
 
 
Moriah is also excited to have a younger brother. She doesn't know it yet, and will probably be a bit confused when he comes. You can also pray with us that she takes this transition well and for us as we figure out how to help her with the coming changes.